Hi semua….lllaaammmmaannyyaaaa…saya telah bertemu dengan seseorang hari ini, beliau memaklumkan pada saya bahawa telah lama saya telah lama tidak menulis di blog saya….TERKEJUT, tidak tahu pula ada orang yang membaca blog saya…ok ok, akan menulis tidak lama lagi…

Just want to post latest information from CODA International…please take time to read

PS : If anyone want the Malay version, please let me know so i can translate it

Hi semua…da lama semenjak i perbaharui blog ini

Ingin saya mengemaskinikan informasi terbaru dari CODA International….semoga anda boleh membacanya

NOTA : Sekiranya ada inginkan versi Bahasa Melayu, sila maklumkan kepada saya untuk diterjemahkan

CODA FACT SHEET 1 2010

deaf parents and hearing childern

2009/07/13

ALOR STAR: If not for their 15-year-old daughter, Azizan Ahmad, his wife Bashah Bahari and their 11-day-old son may have been seriously injured, or worse.

The couple were sleeping blissfully unaware that a storm had ripped away the roof of their home in Kampung Sri Muda, early yesterday.

Blissfully unaware because they are both deaf and mute.
But their teenage daughter, Siti Nur Izani, has no such impairment. She was awakened by a loud ripping sound about 4.45am.

“I knew something bad was going to happen when the storm brought such heavy rains and strong winds.
“When I heard the sound of the roof being ripped away, I ran to the other room and immediately alerted my parents.

“I grabbed my newborn brother Muhammad Adam Syafi and together, we went to seek shelter at my grandfather’s house nearby,” said Siti Nur Izani.

Yesterday’s storm blew off the roofs of another five houses, leaving some 30 people having to seek shelter elsewhere. However, no one was hurt in the incident.

Relative claims deaf-mute murder victim and son had argued

By FARIK ZOLKEPLI

JOHOR BARU: The body of a 47-year-old deaf-mute woman was found bundled up in a travel bag placed underneath the kitchen sink at her home in Kampung MIC.

Police are looking for her 22-year-old son to facilitate investigations, with a relative claiming the son had acted suspiciously on Monday when she was reported missing.

The relative also claimed the mother and son had an argument recently.

A police K9 unit discovered the body of K. Malina, 47, at her home in the squatter settlement at 7.30am here yesterday.

She was believed to have been dead for less than 24 hours.

“The body was fully clothed with some traces of blood. However, we did not discover any wounds on the body,” said Seri Alam OCPD Supt Roslan Zainuddin, adding that the body had been sent to Sultanah Aminah Hospital for post-mortem.

Malina had lived with her husband, two sons and two grandchildren, he added.

Malina’s younger brother, who only wished to be known as Chandran, 41, said his sister had been arguing with the son over the purchase of a motorcycle a few days ago.

“My sister had planned to buy a car for her other son using her husband’s Employees Provident Fund (EPF) money.

“This son then asked her to buy him a motorcycle but she said she would do so when she gets her own EPF money,” he said.

Chandran said that when asked about his mother, the son had claimed she had gone to a relative’s house.

Once upon a time there was a castle in a place called Deafcastle. Now, sign language users lived in the castle, some of whom were deaf and some of whom  were hearing, BUT all of whom were Deaf. The children who were, in the main, hearing were bi-lingual and could communicate with the  people who lived outside the castle walls. These people were known as ‘hearing’ and used the spoken language of that country. The adults in Deafcastle didn’t much like talking  to the ‘outsiders’ because they didn’t understand sign language.

Because daily contact with the hearing world couldn’t be avoided, these Deaf parents taught their hearing children to interpret. Not only that, they encouraged the children to deal with any hearing people that came to the castle drawbridge. The hearing people, even the ‘professionals’ who should have known better, didn’t mind that because they were ignorant of Deaf people‘s ways and norms. So, gradually, the children took more and more control of their family’s life. Nobody really noticed that these children weren’t ready for this. Nobody noticed that they were missing out on their childhood. Of course, the children didn’t know any better and were just trying to please their parents. They grew up being told the awful stories of oppression, abuse and teasing that their parents had endured. When they were sent outside the castle walls to mainstream schools they weren’t prepared for the hearing people’s taunts, abuse and pitying remarks for being different. A lot of the children from the castle couldn’t tell their parents.

After all their parents had suffered enough. Above all though, these children felt safe in the castle. They understood the ways, customs, culture and language of the castle and so of course they felt comfortable! Then, one by one when they were adults, the children woke up outside the castle in the hearing world. They had no idea how they got there and some were so uncomfortable outside the castle they found work in Deafcastle as Social workers, interpreters and teachers.

However, they were unfortunately never allowed to live in the castle again. They could come and go, to work and social events, but the Deaf people always viewed them as hearing people.

THE END (for now)
What I’m asking for is that Deaf people, the Deaf community, inhabitants of Deafcastle look upon as hmfd/coda’s NOT hearing, please. It hurts us that we get discarded because we’re hearing. It’s not our fault that we can hear! We, like you, are Deaf.

Saya amat menyukai cerita ini kerana ia serba sedikit mengambarkan diri saya. Sila baca dan memahamilah diri saya.

Pada suatu masa terdapat sebuah istana yang dipanggil Istana Pekak (Deafcastle). Pengguna bahasa isyarat menetap di istana tersebut, dimana sebahagian besarnya adalah orang Pekak dan selebihnya orang bukan Pekak. Kanak-kanak yang tinggal disitu adalah orang bukan Pekak dan mereka mahir dalam penggunaan dwibahasa dan mampu berkomunikasi dengan orang lain yang tinggal di luar istana. Orang luar ini dikenali sebagai masyarakat bukan Pekak dan bertutur dalam bahasa rasmi negara tersebut. Orang dewasa didalam istana itu tidak menyukai untuk berinteraksi dengan orang luar kerana mereka tidak memahami bahasa isyarat.

Oleh kerana interaksi setiap hari tidak dapat dielakkan, maka ibubapa Pekak ini telah mengajar anak-anak mereka untuk menjadi jurubahasa. Bukan itu sahaja, malah anak-anak digalakkan untuk menghadap orang luar yang datang ke istana tersebut. Orang luar ini, termasuk mereka yang ‘profesional’ hanya menerima sahaja kerana mereka sememangnya tidak menahu keperluan dan norma kehidupan orang Pekak. Oleh kerana itu, secara perlahan-lahan anak-anak ini mengambil alih menjadi ketua keluarga. Namun, tidak seorang pun menyedari bahawa anak-anak ini belum bersedia dan tidak dapat merasai kehidupan sebagai seorang kanak-kanak. Anak-anak ini tidak menyedarinya dan lebih kepada untuk mengambil hati ibubapa mereka sahaja. Anak-anak ini membesar dengan cerita bagaimana ibubapa mereka ditindas, didera dan diusik. Apabila anak-anak ini dihantar ke sekolah diluar istana, mereka tidak bersedia dengan usikan, cemuhan dan mendengar kata-kata simpati mengenai ibubapa mereka. Apa yang dihadapi ini disembunyikan daripada pengetahuan ibubapa masing-masing.

Mereka sedar bahawa ibubapa mereka telah banyak menderita. Walaubagaimanapun, anak-anak ini merasakan mereka lebih selamat untuk tinggal bersama didalam istana. Ini kerana mereka lebih memahami cara, budaya, adat dan bahasa, itulah sebabnya mereka selesa berada didalam istana. Tetapi, anak-anak ini semakin lama meningkat dewasa, dan membesar diluar istana dikalangan orang bukan Pekak. Mereka tidak tahu bagaimana mereka boleh sampai ke tahap itu dan sebahagiannya merasa tidak selesa berada diluar istana. Disebabkan itu, mereka mencari pekerjaan didalam istana sebagai pekerja kebajikan, Jurubahasa Isyarat dan guru.

Namun demikian, mereka tidak dibenarkan untuk tinggal didalam istana. Mereka boleh keluar masuk istana, boleh menghadiri pelbagai acara sosial, boleh bekerja, tetapi orang Pekak tetap melihat mereka seperti orang bukan Pekak.

TAMAT

Apa yang diminta adalah kepada  masyarakat Pekak, penduduk-penduduk didalam istana untuk melihat CODA seperti sebahagian daripada orang Pekak. Kami amat kecewa dan sakit hati dipinggirkan kerana kami bukan Pekak. Bukan silap salah kami yang kami diberi pendengaran yang sempurna. Kami, seperti anda adalah Pekak.

Saya amat menggalakkan agar warga Pekak yang mempunyai anak-anak yang boleh mendengar dan bercakap dengan lingkungan umur 10 – 17 tahun dijemput hadir.

Sila hubungi Persatuan Orang Pekak Negeri yang disebut diatas untuk mendaftarkan diri.

I would like to urge the Deaf community that have hearing children aged 10 – 17 years old to participate in the camp.

Please contact the states Deaf Association for registration.

Please contact each centre, and to contact the person in charge directly, please SMS.

PUSKOM (Pusat Komunikasi Orang Pekak) akan menganjurkan Kem CODA sehari di setiap pusatnya. CODA dari negeri-negeri ini adalah dijemput hadir.

Sila hubungi setiap pusat, dan untuk menghubungi individu ini sila SMS.

Selamat Hari Jadi kepada mak ayak saya yang menyambut hari jadi mereka pada bulan ini. Ayah saya, Goh Tat Chuen (20 Jun – 59 tahun) dan mak saya, Tau Chai Yu (23 Jun – 51 tahun). Adik-beradik saya (Janice Goh Soo Feng dan Alex Goh Soo Hai) meraikannya dengan makan malam diluar (sebenarnya dibayar oleh Yew Kee, teman lelaki adik saya). Makan malam yang sedap dan kami semua begitu gembira. Sesudah makan, Alex dan Yew Kee berebut-rebut nak membayar makan malam tersebut. Kelakar betul.

Pada awalnya saya sampai di Terminal Bas Kuala Terengganu saya diminta untuk menelefon seorang sukarelawan untuk bertanya tentang bas yang akan mengambil kami. Itulah kali pertama saya mendengar suaranya, dan setibanya di Universiti Darul Iman Malaysia (UDM) saya telah bertemu dengan Najwa buat pertama kali. Sepanjang SOPMA, walaupun Najwa tidak terlibat dengan penganjuran keseluruhannya (beliau lebih banyak membantu Persatuan Orang Pekak Terengganu [POPT]). Walaupun kedengaran komen dan kritikan, namun itu adalah sebahagian daripada lumrah penganjuran.

Apapun, sebagai CODA saya ingin mengucapkan syabas dan tahniah kepada Najwa diatas pengorbanan beliau.

Recently, i was asked to interpret for National Deaf Sports (SOPMA) in Terengganu from 24 – 29 May 2009. I was told by CT that i’m going to meet a volunteer that so happen to be a CODA herself. This curious me more as i never encounter any CODA from the east coast.

When i first arrive in Terengganu, i was asked to call a volunteer to enquire about the bus that suppose to pick us up, and that is the first time i talk to her. When we arrived in Universiti Darul Iman Malaysia (UDM) our accommodation for the next 6 days, there’s where i met her, Najwa. During SOPMA, Najwa didn’t participate so much in it as she was helping the Terengganu Society of the Deaf (POPT) contingent. There’re comment and critisim but this is normal when you’re organising a programme.

Anyway, good job to Najwa for her effort and congratulations.

HAPPY MOTHER FATHER DEAF DAY!!!!!

Hi, adakah anda tau bahawa 30 April kita CODA akan menyambut Hari Ibu Ayah Pekak. Ya, saya menyeru semua CODA yang membaca blog ini untuk memperingati tarikh ini dan menyambut bersama ibubapa kami. Untuk mak ayah saya, mereka walaupun buta huruf, ingin saya beritahu bahawa saya menyayangi anda, dan dalam hati saya tidak ada ibubapa lain di dunia ini seperti anda.

SELAMAT MENYAMBUT HARI IBU AYAH PEKAK

I was told but CT (she’s the one organising and my god sister and mother to my god daughter) that she received an email saying the kids (KODA) was being abused by one of the facilitator. I would like to stress here that there no such things happen during the 3 days camo. We’re just instilling discipline among the kids. If it does happen, i don’t think i will just stand there and say nothing at all, then it is ridiculous. Some might say i say this because i’m close to CT, it’s an outrageous statement without knowing the fact.

Why some CODA / KODA were rude to their parents, yes i know. They didn’t really call out to their parents by saying dad or mom or papa or mama. They might just yell Hei!, Woi! and even just shout to get their parents attention. I would like to stress here that it is the people around us that didn’t educate and guide us properly. Even the closest family members does the same thing. There is where we learn from it. So don’t blame us for being not polite to our parents. But, as a adult CODA, i’m responsible to guide and teach the younger one on the dos and dons.

Anyway, good job to CT and PDA in organising the CODA Camp.

Baru-baru ini saya telah dijemput untuk menjadi fasilitator di Kem Jati Diri CODA yang dianjurkan oleh Persatuan Orang Pekak Pulau Pinang (PDA). Keseluruhannya, ia menyeronokkan dan berjaya. Pada akhir program, rata-rata peserta menyatakan keinginan menyertai kem CODA pada masa akan datang. Walaupun terdapat sedikit masalah namun ia dapat diatasi dan program berjalan dengan lancar.

Saya telah dimaklumkan oleh CT (beliau bertanggungjawab menganjurkan program ini, beliau adalah adik angkat saya dan ibu kepada anak angkat saya) bahawa beliau menerima emel yang menyatakan kanak-kanak (KODA) telah didera oleh salah seorang fasiltator. Ingin saya perjelaskan bahawa ia tidak pernah berlaku dan kami hanya ingin mendisplinkan mereka sahaja. Jika benar ia berlaku, tidak mungkin saya akan berdiam diri dan membiarkan sahaja. Mungkin mereka menyatakan bahawa saya hanya menyebelahi CT, kenyataan ini adalah tidak berfakta dan tidak bermoral.

Kenapa ada setengah CODA / KODA bersikap kurang ajar terhadap ibubapa mereka? Mereka tidak memanggil dengan panggilan ayah atau ibu dsb. Kemungkinan mereka menjerit atau memanggil dengan suara yang kuat seperi Hei! dan Woi!. Ini berlaku kerana orang disekeliling kita tidak mengajar dan membimbing kita dengan betul. Malahan saudara mara sendiri berbuat demikian, disitu lah kita belajar. Jangan sesekali menyalahkan kita kerana bersikap kurang ajar. Namun, saya sebagai CODA yang telah dewasa, maka menjadi tanggungjawab saya untuk membimbing mereka yang masih kecil.

Tahniah kepada CT dan PDA kerana telah berjaya menganjurkan Kem Jati Diri CODA.